Gay Gossip Blogger Perez Hilton Hopes His Son Will Be Heterosexual
Gossip columnist Perez Hilton is an out and proud, unapologetic, gay man. Yet, he recently said, “If I had my preference, I would prefer my son to be heterosexual, because that’s easier.” He added, “As a gay man, I’m not ashamed of being gay. But if I could go back in time and when I was 18, be given a choice — you can choose to be gay and be gay, or you can choose to be heterosexual and be heterosexual — I would have chosen then to be heterosexual.”
This is remarkable on many levels.
Hilton Thinks He Had No Choice
First, as fully expected, we see that Hilton did not think he had a choice to make about being gay. In his perception, this is who he was, and this was to be his lot in life.
This is how the vast majority of those who identify as gay feel: “I was born this way (or, I’ve always been this way), and my only choice is whether or not I act on my desires.”
All of us who reach out to the LGBT community need to bear this in mind. For the most part, people do not just decide, “I think I’m going to be gay.”
Hilton Does Not Wish the Same for His Kids
Second, despite Hilton’s own fame as a gay man, he does not wish the same for his kids. (He now has three children, a boy, born 2013, and two girls, born 2015 and 2017, all conceived via donor egg and carried by surrogate mothers.)
As for his own life, while he did say he would have chosen to be heterosexual if he could have as a teenager, at this point he says, “I’m not going to change now, because my life is OK now.”
Still, he states that in America and worldwide, gay and trans people still have “a harder road to travel on” and “we’re still discriminated against.” That’s why it’s “easier” to be heterosexual.
Of course, he’s absolutely right. It is easier to be heterosexual, but it’s not just because of discrimination and the like.
Instead, as heterosexuals: 1) we’re living in harmony with our divinely-intended design; 2) only a tiny minority of the population identifies as LGBT, making this a heterosexual world; 3) heterosexuals, by design, can reproduce naturally, without the need for donor eggs or in vitro fertilization or surrogate mothers; and 4) heterosexual reproduction naturally joins a child to its mother and father.
This is not to deny that gay parents can love their children. Not for a second. Many gay parents are extremely devoted to the kids they are raising.
Hilton was clear about this too, saying, “Ultimately, every decision I make for my son is what I think is best for his future. I don’t want to do anything that could potentially hurt him. . . . If my son turns out to be gay, or if he’s already gay but not able to articulate that yet because he’s only 5, I will love my son unconditionally and support him. If my son is transgender, I will love him and support him unconditionally.”
Yet even this proud, successful gay man hopes that his son will be heterosexual.
And this leads to the third point, which is why Hilton addressed the issue at all.
Hilton Admits Environment Can Contribute to Same-Sex Attraction
On a previous podcast, he said that he refused to put his son into dance class “because I think dance class might help make your son gay.”
Again, this is a remarkable statement, as Hilton recognizes that environment and not just genetics can contribute to same-sex attraction.
He said, “I’m not going to put a number on it, but I would say a good amount – maybe like 50 percent or more – of little boys who take dance class end up being gay. I don’t think it’s a homophobic thing to say. Just like I don’t think it’s a homophobic thing to say that a disproportionate amount of male singers/actors/dancers on Broadway are gay. There are more gay men drawn to that profession. That’s not homophobic, that’s just a fact. . . . Maybe there are so many gay dancers because they were already gay going into dance class and dance just spoke to them.”
So, he suggests that some boys are drawn to dancing and the performing arts because “they were already gay.” But he’s concerned that others might become gay because of the environment.
I believe he’s right on both points, although I wouldn’t say that a 5-year-old boy was already “gay.” Rather, I would say that the child was already evidencing attitudes and behaviors that could one day manifest in same-sex attractions. (As the saying goes, predisposition is not predestination.)
At the same time, there is no question that environment plays a major role in influencing sexual and gender perceptions. That’s why a 2016 “study by trend forecasting agency J. Walter Thompson Innovation Group found that only 48 percent of 13-20-year-olds identify as ‘exclusively heterosexual,’ compared to 65 percent of millennials aged 21 to 34.”
Additionally, “When it comes to gender, over a third of Generation Z . . . strongly agreed that gender did not define a person as much as it used to — only 28 percent of millennials felt similarly. Over half, 56 percent, of Gen Z said that they knew someone who went by gender neutral pronouns such as ‘they,’ ‘them,’ or ‘ze,’ compared to 43 percent of people 28 to 34.”
Of course, some argue that this spike in LGBT identity is “a reflection of growing up in a world with unprecedented access to information and communities.” So, the argument goes, it’s easier today for people to recognize and accept their real identity. But that is to oversimplify and overstate.
Instead, I would argue that impressionable children are being bombarded with media and messaging that celebrate homosexuality and that challenge gender distinctions, because of which kids are experiencing greater confusion. This is anything but positive.
A Word for Perez Hilton
The bottom line, though, is that we’re talking about people, not statistics, and I was genuinely moved watching Hilton’s video.
And so, Perez, if by chance (really, by God’s providence) you read this, I’m writing as a friend, not a foe. And my message to you is simple: Just as you love your son — no, infinitely more — God loves you. If you will surrender to His love and His plan for your life, you will find that He has something far better for you than what you have known so far.
But the first choice you must make is not about heterosexuality. I agree with you that you just can’t snap your fingers and make that happen.
Instead, the choice is about submitting your life to Jesus the Lord. It is about choosing to put your trust in the One who died for you, asking Him to wash away your sins and give you a brand new life. It is about asking Him to have mercy on you and transform you. From there, the adventure begins.
What’s stopping you?