Healing for Adult Children of Divorce

By The Ruth Institute Published on February 20, 2024

Dr. Daniel and Bethany Meola are the co-founders of Life-Giving Wounds, a ministry to adult children of divorce, which has 20 chapters across the U.S. They are also authors of the new book, Life-Giving Wounds: A Catholic Guide to Healing for Adult Children of Divorce or Separation.

Even as an adult, the dissolution of his parents’ marriage was painful for Dan, and he saw the need for healing. Having gotten there himself, he and Bethany now help the many people from broken homes, still mourning the loss of an intact family, find healing for themselves.

The Meolas are unabashedly religious in their ministry because, as Dan points out, “The deepest core suffering is the absence of God. We’re all made for God. We desire more than just what this world can give us. [Therefore,] spiritual healing is the deepest level of healing.”

 “If you come from a broken home, you are less likely to consider yourself a believer,” Bethany says. One example of this is “someone with a serious father wound — if their father has abandoned them, or is not a good example of a father, it can be really hard to trust in the love of God the father.”

“Millions of people don’t have a family that was able to really image God’s love. Many adult children of divorce feel like their parents’ practice of the faith was hypocritical. They went to church, yet still their family fell apart,” Bethany adds.

“When we ask children of divorce, ‘What’s the core wound?’ two things came up: the loss of my parents’ love together, and feeling abandoned by God,” Dan notes. “We as Christians need to go into that mess, into those feelings. We know marriage is called to image God’s love, so when it doesn’t, there is a natural sense of, ‘If this is an image of God’s love, then I don’t want anything to do with this.’”

“We’re trying to enter into those deep dark places, and say, okay, our parents are not God. God transcends this image … God wants to heal you from those past memories and pain,” Dan says.

To learn more, including the differences and similarities between divorce and adoption, watch the full interview on Locals. You can watch the first half on YouTube, Bitchute, or Odysee.

The Sexual State at Work: Schools and Planned Parenthood Deceive Parents

“Recent cases in Missouri and New Jersey show a shocking pattern of parents being deliberately deceived by agents of the Sexual State,” said Ruth Institute president Dr. Jennifer Roback Morse. 

In Missouri, Attorney General Andrew Bailey blew the whistle on Planned Parenthood illegally trafficking children out of state to have abortions. A Planned Parenthood manager admitted to an undercover journalist that they run girls across the border to Kansas daily, even setting up hotels for them. All this happens without parental notification.

In New Jersey, a father is suing a high school for socially transitioning his daughter, giving her a male name and using male pronouns, while specifically telling school staff to not tell her father.

Keep reading.

February Ruth Institute Book Sale

In honor of St. Valentine’s Day, the Ruth Institute is offering 20% off through the end of February on these two books: 101 Tips for a Happier Marriage and 101 Tips for Marrying the Right Person.

You can also purchase autographed and “wedding” editions by finding them in the Ruth Store.

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The Ruth Institute is a global non-profit organization, leading an international interfaith coalition to defend the family and build a civilization of love. The Ruth Institute’s Founder and President, Dr. Jennifer Roback Morse, is the author of The Sexual State: How Elite Ideologies Are Destroying Lives and Love and Economics: It Takes a Family to Raise a Village. Subscribe to our newsletter and YouTube channel to get all our latest news.

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