Ladies beware: Manic Pixie Dream Boys are real, and they’re growing in numbers. You know the type: He’s commitment-shy, wears a backpack, but doesn’t carry a cell phone. He’s fueled by wanderlust and is constantly jumping from adventure to adventure. He strikes up conversations about Derrida with strangers on the metro and is continually “between apartments.”

In a piece for The Cut, Anna Breslaw describes the MPDB as “the self-mythologizing ‘free-spirited’ dude who’s determined to make your life magical, whether you want it or not.” Breslaw explains that while they may be fun for a season, it’s never going to work out in the long-term, because when we reach our 30s, we want a sustainable relationship with a man who remembers to pay the bills and isn’t afraid of commitment. Her message is loud and clear: the MPDB is no dreamboat; stay away.