What We Can Learn From the Gay Schoolteacher Who Allegedly Abused Boys

Parents should be on the lookout for any inappropriate relationship between their child and an adult of the same sex.

By Michael Brown Published on September 16, 2016

It turns out that there was more to the story of a gay schoolteacher and his “husband” who were found dead August 25th as the apparent result of a murder-suicide. According to court documents, the men were under investigation for serially abusing underage boys, and with their deaths, even more boys are coming forward with reports of abuse.

According to People Magazine, “The apparent murder-suicide of a Minnesota elementary school teacher and his husband last week now seems to have masked a darker truth: Police say the couple, teacher Aric Babbitt and Matthew Deyo, are being investigated after multiple teenagers accused them of sexual abuse.”

Does this mean that all gay men, or at least, gay schoolteachers, are sexual predators, preying on underage boys? Certainly not, and to draw that conclusion would be totally unfair.

There are countless cases of heterosexual schoolteachers, both male and female, who have had inappropriate sexual relationships with underage students, and we don’t draw the conclusion that all heterosexuals, or, more specifically, all heterosexual schoolteachers, are sexual predators.

These heterosexual abusers include coaches, administrators, librarians, teachers, and others, and no one is branding all heterosexual coaches, administrators, librarians, and teachers as child abusers because of the heinous acts of a relatively few. (Note that even if the sex was consensual in some cases, it was still illegal and, because of the relationship, abusive.)

But there is something important we can learn when it comes to this gay couple and their alleged abuse of underage males, and it has to do with the unique role a gay teacher can have in our schools today.

In the case of Babbit, who since 2002 taught at Lincoln Center Elementary School in South St. Paul, Minnesota, the teenager who reported him to the police confessed to having an ongoing sexual relationship after coming out as gay.

The teen stated that Babbit was his “former elementary school teacher, volunteer work supervisor and mentor,” and that Babbit and Deyo “invited him to a jazz concert in Minneapolis soon after he turned 16, where they stayed overnight at a hotel. At the hotel, the two men allegedly plied him with alcohol and had sex with him, the teen said.

“The teen said he didn’t want ‘to do this, but felt unsure about how to say no,’ according to the Pioneer Press.

“The teen also allegedly provided police with Polaroid pictures of himself naked with Babbitt, who he said became his mentor after he came out as gay, according to CBS Minnesota.”

Again, this does not mean that all gay schoolteachers are sexual predators, but it reminds us that it is not uncommon for a gay teacher to take a student under his or her wings after that student comes out as gay (Babbit was seen as a mentor and father figure), with the parents having no knowledge of this whatsoever. The danger of such a teacher-student relationship is self-evident, and it is something that can happen with greater frequency within same-sex circles.

After all, if the parents do not affirm and celebrate their child’s coming out as gay, they are now the enemies, and the child needs to be protected from these bigots for his or her good. What better protector than a gay teacher?

Tragically, Gay-Straight Alliances (GSAs) are found in schools throughout America, beginning in middle schools, and in these GSAs, students can come out as gay to their peers and to participating school officials, and by school policy, this information can be kept from the parents. And groups like the ACLU fight vigorously for the “right” of these groups to exist.

Yet it is in GSAs that vulnerable, impressionable, and still maturing kids can be introduced into the larger gay culture — often with the help of older “mentors” — and this includes “youth pride” events where these children can get pamphlets instructing them on “how to ‘safely’ engage in homosexual oral sex, anal sex, and other behaviors.” (The pamphlet linked here is sickeningly graphic, with references to acts that the vast majority of adults, let alone children, would consider perverse.)

Again, this situation is uniquely prevalent in LGBT circles, and it is not surprising to read that, “‘In interviews with … victims, Babbitt and Deyo would expose the teens to porn, give them access to porn subscriptions, and encourage them to communicate with them without their [parents’] knowledge, on social media,’ police allege, according to the documents.

“The couple would also give their victims gifts, according to the documents: In one instance they gave a teenage boy, who was also gay, some underwear and yoga shorts, with Babbitt telling the teen’s concerned mom that it was a ‘gay thing’ and he was helping.”

The lesson, then, for parents, is obvious: First, you need to stand against any group or organization in your school that would allow your kids to confide sexual secrets to teachers or officials without your knowledge. This is absolutely unacceptable.

Second, if your child comes out to you as gay, rather than reacting in such a way that will drive him or her away, you must show that child unconditional love (without changing your biblical convictions) and encourage complete transparency so you can be there for your children when they need you the most.

And third, if your child does come out as gay, be on the lookout for any inappropriate relationship with an adult of the same sex. This really is a danger zone, and we need to be vigilant.

The safety and well-being of our kids is at stake. 

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  • john appleseed

    Dr Brown, while it’s true that many homosexuals are not child molesters, you should point out the fact that any given homosexual individual is far more likely to be a child molester than any given heterosexual.
    More than 40% of child molestation is homosexual in nature, while only 3% of the population is homosexual.
    You do the math.
    Do not trust any homosexual with any child.

  • Gary

    Men don’t have husbands. If your kid was a thief, or a murderer, would you just tell them that you are against what they are doing, but you are there for them if they want to talk? If your young daughter was having sex with boys, would you tell her that you don’t approve, but you are there for her if she wants to talk about it? I think Brown is much to accommodating to the homosexuals.

    • Bryan

      Gary, you seem so hostile to homosexuals. Last time I checked they are human beings and loved by God. Jesus was sent to die for their sins as much as yours or mine. In fact your sin is just as damning as theirs. Think about it: Lying is just as bad as any other sin, including sexual sins (fornication, adultery, homosexuality, etc.) Yet Jesus came to die for my sin of lying as much as someone else’s adultery.
      To your points: If my kid was a thief or murderer, I think I would turn them over to the appropriate authority (thief is pretty broad, if they stole a piece of candy, the proper authority, most likely, is the manager of the store from which the candy was taken.) However, stealing and murder are illegal in this country (unless it’s government sanctioned) in addition to being morally wrong according to God, our moral authority. Homosexuality isn’t illegal in this country which means that even though it’s still morally wrong, there is no earthly authority for me to turn someone over to. Therefore, I deal with this between them and God, and the church if necessary.
      If my daughter (I actually have 2) was having sex with boys, I would tell her I don’t approve and remove her from the situation as best as I am able depending on her age. But I would also reach out to her because my relationship with my daughter is important too. If I just condemn her and send her away until her life is perfect (or as perfect as I think it should be), what is the likelyhood of her coming back to God’s design for sex? Practically zero! Of course God can do anything, but he usually uses people, specifically people in relationship, to move in hearts.
      In the same way, if homosexuals are ostracized by the people that profess to know the God of love, who will they turn to? The only people that will have them, other homosexuals and people who are indifferent.

      • Gary

        I am very hostile toward homosexuals. But not nearly has hostile as God is, according to the Bible. To me, the worst thing that I could ever hear from my child would be “I’m gay”. I would MUCH rather hear that my son or daughter had been killed than to learn they had become homosexual. It would be something that I could not tolerate, and would ruin the rest of my life. If they lived in my home, they would quickly be removed. And since I don’t believe that God saves homosexuals, I would have to live the rest of my life believing they are on their way to Hell. I cannot imagine anything worse, for me. I thank God that has not happened, and I don’t expect it will. And for that I am grateful to God. I understand that others believe differently than I do about it and would not deal with it like I would.

        • Jim Walker

          Gary
          Why would you rather your kids die ? there is always hope when we believe in Jesus. Its not the end of the world for them.
          God will not save homosexuals or anyone else who thinks they are not sinning against HIM and continue indulging in their acts.
          God will save anyone who surrender wholeheartedly to HIM and repents.

          • Gary

            I don’t believe homosexuals ever repent, or surrender to God.

          • Jim Walker

            With man, its not possible, but with God all things are possible !
            By your argument, you only acknowledge that LGBTQs are born that way.

          • Gary

            I don’t believe lgbtq is genetic.

          • Bryan

            I agree with Jim Walker. Gary your stance supports the “born this way” argument and leaves them a way to say it’s not my fault, it’s God’s (or the universe or cosmic aliens from the 5th dimension).
            Also, you strip God’s deity from him. If God cannot save someone who practices homosexual behavior, then he cannot be God because there is something he cannot do. Or that he is not good because he will not do it. If Christ’s death on the cross cannot take away a certain sin, then how can we know that he will take away my sin?
            I am certainly not saying it would not be devastating to hear my child say “Dad, I’m gay.” But it is also not the end of the story. As their parent I need to continue to pray for them and with them for Christ’s love to work repentance in their heart. Then I need to love them the way God love’s them, unconditionally.

          • Gary

            I never said God CANNOT do anything. He can do whatever He wants. I just don’t believe He is interested in saving homosexuals. God has no obligation to save anyone.

            People are not robots. We all choose our behavior. The homosexual can no more blame God for what he does than the playboy can blame God for his one night stands with women, or the thief can blame God because he stole his neighbor’s jewels. Our behavior is our responsibility.

          • Bryan

            If God is not interested in saving homosexuals, why is he interested in saving anyone? If we claim that God is not interested in saving the homosexual, how can we claim God’s love is unconditional and unmerited?
            I actually agree with everything in your reply except the one sentence: “I just don’t believe He is interested in saving homosexuals.” I believe He desperately wants all to repent, even homosexuals, but at the same time he is not forcing repentance.
            Michael Gore above makes some good points as well.

          • Gary

            God saves who he wants to save. Everyone else gets justice. Nobody is mistreated or wronged by God. I can’t explain why some believe and most don’t.

          • Jim Walker

            Gary You say God save whoever He wants to ?
            His salvation is open to all. He saves someone at His timing, not ours.
            However, God gives us a Choice. To choose Him or reject Him.
            Therefore, your understanding is incorrect.

          • Jim Walker

            Bryan, I think Gary equates God’s wrath on Sodom and Gomorrah to Him not interested in saving LGBTQ.
            However, To me the episode of S & G brings about the consequence of defying God’s laws and commandments and serve to remind that if we continue to dwell in our sin and embracing it then we have to face the consequences of eternal damnation.

          • Jim Walker

            Gary I don’t believe its genetic either. But Homosexuality is a sin that we need to God just like all other sins like adultery, greed etc.
            To our God all of us have sinned and fall short of His glory.
            To Him, all of us are equals, no man better than others, as its His Grace that Saves, not by works so no one can boast.

          • Michael Gore

            Gary this is just a denial of reality. There are many faithful Christians today who have come out of the homosexual lifestyle and repented of it, and then turned to Christ. Pastor Joe Dallas is a great example, and now he helps others to do the same.

            How do you respond to the Apostle Paul when he writes to the Corinithians:
            “Or do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor men who practice homosexuality, nor thieves, nor the greedy, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God. And such were some of you. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God.” – 1 COR 6:9-11

            AND SUCH WERE SOME OF YOU. This is past tense. Now he calls them washed, sanctified, and justified by Jesus Christ and the Holy Spirit. I don’t believe someone can be a practicing homosexual and a follower of Jesus any more than they can be a practicing thief, or murderer, or adulterer and claim to be a follower of Christ. But you seem to have lost your balance on this issue. I’ve seen many of your posts and am concerned for you. Christ does not call you to hate anybody, “We are therefore Christ’s ambassadors, as though God were making his appeal through us. We implore you on Christ’s behalf: Be reconciled to God.” (2 COR 5:20). You cannot fulfill this requirement if you cannot love the person you are making the appeal towards.

            We ought to tell the homosexual to repent and turn to God. “This is good, and it is pleasing in the sight of God our Savior, who desires all people to be saved and to come to the knowledge of the truth” (2 TIM 2:3-4). Please examine your actions and motives and make sure that your opposition to homosexuality is because it is dishonoring to God and eternally fatal to those who practice it, and not because you find it “icky”.

          • Gary

            Just because something happened in the past does not necessarily mean it is repeated. I don’t believe anyone who says they used to be a homosexual, but they are not now. You believe what you want. I never spend any time trying to get sodomites to be saved. If you want to spend your time that way, fine with me.

          • Michael Gore

            No Gary that will not do. If you are truly following Jesus then you have a higher standard to live up to then the secular crowd. If we do not honor and seek truth we are not honoring God. You can’t just assert your position and refuse to defend it when challenged on it, especially when my claim is that your position is not biblical.

            Once again, the apostle Paul claims in 1 Corinthians 6:9-11 that some of the members of the church were once homosexuals, but are now sanctified. If your claim is that it cannot happen, your are saying Paul is wrong, not with me.

          • Gary

            I did not say Paul was wrong. Review what I wrote, if you want. I’m not trying to convince you to do anything different than what you are doing. I’m just stating what I believe. You can consider my position not biblical if you want, but I would disagree with you about that.

    • Jim Walker

      Gary
      I will do both – tell them it is wrong AND be there for them if they want to talk about it. The second part is to understand why they are doing the wrong things and help them change.

  • Gary

    I live in NC and have been following the HB2 thing closely. One thing that has been reinforced is that homosexuals, and the people who support them are vicious, mean, intolerant, promoters of perversion. They hate freedom of religion, they hate Christians, they hate freedom of association. They are the enemies of Christ and his people. So any of you who think that liberals are nice people who are just a little wrong about some things, WAKE UP!!! Get your head out of the sand and face reality! You can be sure that liberals are trying to figure out how to eliminate Christians.

    • Jim Walker

      “So any of you who think that liberals are nice people who are just a little wrong about some things,”
      I never believe they are.
      However, they are under the bondage of the prince of the air therefore we as Christians must pray in unity because :

      Ephesians 6:12
      For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms.

      Proverbs 25:21~22
      If your enemy is hungry, give him food to eat; if he is thirsty, give him water to drink.
      In doing this, you will heap burning coals on his head, and the LORD will reward you.

  • Shaune Scott

    If a heterosexual girl or boy is not comfortable telling a parent that she or he is having a sexual relationship, would there be “mentors” at school to “help” the child learn about safe sex, pornography, etc.? Sadly, I think that in too many schools the answer is “Yes”. Why are we allowing people with no emotional investment in our children and their future to lead them into lifestyles that are so damaging?

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