We Have Forgotten How to Blush

By Michael Brown Published on March 26, 2018

Do you remember when it was considered shameful to be a porn star? When porn and mainstream entertainment didn’t mix? Do you remember when being a prostitute was considered disgraceful? Do you recall the days before TV shows like Showtime’s Secret Diary of a Call Girl and HBO’s Cathouse?

There was a time in our culture when we knew how to blush. When we had a sense of propriety. When Hollywood operated under a strict moral code. When secret things were kept secret.

Those days are as distant as TV shows like Lassie. We have forgotten how to blush.

But before anyone misreads me, my purpose here is not to condemn porn-star Stormy Daniels or former Playboy model Karen McDougal, both of whom had alleged adulterous affairs with Donald Trump. Nor is my purpose to condemn Trump or, before him, Bill Clinton.

My purpose is to encourage us to look inward at ourselves, at our larger culture, at what has become of America as a whole. Almost nothing shames or shocks today.

These are the days when we have forgotten how to blush.

These are the days of middle-schoolers sexting each other.

These are the days of wall-to-wall, day-and-night porn.

These are the days when releasing a sex-tape is the path to stardom and when a mother of two posing naked is the way to “break the internet.”

These are the days when 60 Minutes gets its best ratings in years by airing a salacious interview about a porn-star and the president.

These are the days when we have forgotten how to blush.

Comparing Today With 1953

When Hugh Hefner died last year, I discovered something interesting about the first edition of Playboy in 1953: Hefner’s name was nowhere to be found in the publication. He wanted to hedge his bet, and in the event that the magazine crashed and burned, he would not be blacklisted. In other words, if America wasn’t ready for a mainstream publication featuring nudity, then his name would not be associated with such shameful endeavor.

As it turns out, female, celebrity nudity became Hefner’s calling card and claim to fame. And he was lionized as a hero upon his death.

But even back in 1953, the seeds of the sexual revolution were being sown, dating back another 5 years to 1948, when Alfred Kinsey’s infamous The Sexual Behavior of the Human Male was published with much fanfare. This made Kinsey into a household name, with almost no one asking how he obtained data about the sexual responses of children and infants. (This, in and of itself, is one of the most shameful episodes of 20th century America.)

Still, despite the mainstreaming of Kinsey and then Hefner, the culture as a whole was not immediately affected.

Virginity was still prized (especially among women). Couples did not commonly live together out of wedlock, let alone have children out of wedlock. Illegitimacy was still frowned on. And mainstream movies and TV still featured wholesome examples.

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We’ve Forgotten How to Blush

Of course, we were still plagued with segregation, while women did not truly have equal opportunities with men. And so, quite clearly, our society was far from perfect (or Christian).

At the same time, there’s no denying that, in many ways, we’ve been on a steady moral decline since the early days of Kinsey and Hefner.

It is the difference between Leave It to Beaver and Game of Thrones. The difference between Father Knows Best and Girls.

It is the difference between video games like Pacman and Grand Theft Auto: San Andreas. The difference between your first cell phone (which was not that smart) and live, chat-room sex apps.

We have truly forgotten how to blush. We accept that which is unacceptable and celebrate that which is shameful. And in the process, we embarrass ourselves.

Learning to Blush Again

But again, my purpose here is not to point an accusing finger at others. It is a call to examine ourselves. To see how far we have fallen. To recognize how coarsened and hardened we have become. To ask ourselves before God, “What has become of my conscience? Have I allowed myself to become corrupted with the rest of the world?”

Why not take some time this week to reflect on your own life. And if you realize you too have forgotten how to blush, ask the Lord to create a new heart within you.

The bad news is that it’s becoming increasingly difficult to live lives that are separated from the pollution of this age (see 2 Corinthians 6:14-7:1). The good news is that all of us can be cleansed and forgiven.

This weekend, Christians around the world will celebrate the death and resurrection of Jesus. This reminds us of two important truths. First, Jesus died for all of us, which means that all of us have sinned and are guilty in God’s sight. We all deserve condemnation. Second, Jesus died for all for us, which means that all of us can be forgiven and made whole.

Why not take some time this week to reflect on your own life — your own standards and morals and values? And if you realize that you too have forgotten how to blush, ask the Lord to create a new heart within you. Then, see if you can break away from the things that defile your conscience and focus instead on things that are worthy of your time and your attention.

You might just learn to blush again. (I’m working on this too.)

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  • tz1

    Even you don’t blush at Abortion, in that you don’t mention it in your post. Yet how many dead babies even in this holy week?

    • Andrew Mason

      Is abortion a blushworthy event though? A tragedy, an abomination, a … sure, but embarrassing or shameful?

      • tz1

        Any reaction to the Abortion Holocaust, including ignoring it, other than condemning it and being outraged at the monstrous nature, scope, and scale is blushworty.

    • Ken Abbott

      Way to deflect back to your favorite subject, tz1. Not every post has to be about abortion. It’s grossly unfair to expect an author constantly to write about your priorities.

  • Bojaws Dubois

    This writer has some sort of sick obsession with the perverse. He frequently writes about homosexuality and transgenderism. He’s one of those people who think that homos are out to get us or something. Disgusting.

    • GLT

      To point out a sick obsession is not to have a sick obsession. It would be society which displays an increasingly sick obsession with the perverse, thus the need for it to check its attitude as Dr. Brown suggests.

    • Patmos

      Go away troll.

    • Andrew Mason

      Perhaps the frequency of Brown’s commentary reflects the rise of homofascism and transfacism in Western society? Sodom and Gomorrah are on the march. Take a news site I look at fairly regularly. There’s a piece about homosexual weddings, another about child porn, and a third about some girl selling her virginity a million or more. This is considered headline news by a major site! On another major site there’s a piece about a trans athlete, and something about plans for a homosexual street crossing with the image showing a bunch of kids and some politician. See the common theme? Our society is increasing shifting towards Sodom and Gomorrah values, though hopefully it’ll be a while before offering virgin daughters to homosexual rapists intent on ‘getting to know’ your guests is considered good manners.

    • Ken Abbott

      On the contrary–he’s bringing the light of Scripture and the gospel to bear on important cultural subjects and he is speaking as a prophet (in the manner of John the Baptist) reminding our society of God’s eternal truths. To do otherwise would be dereliction of his Christian duty.

    • Tim Pan

      You sound like a homo.

  • Patmos

    Having their conscience seared with a hot iron is a sign of the latter days, though I do think we are in a brief reprieve, in spite of the downward trend.

    • Andrew Mason

      It’s things like this that make me tend to shrug when the possibility of Sharia law being imposed is raised. Does it really matter? The Left are already imposing their version of Sharia law.

  • Royce E. Van Blaricome

    I have talked for years about how the Church has aided & abetted The Enemy by removing “shame” from everyday recourse. How often have we heard Christians say “God doesn’t want you to feel shame” or “it’s wrong to feel ashamed” or in some other way belittle and demean the God-given awareness that comes when the God-given conscience speaks to one who can still hear. Dr. Brown is spot on! There is a time to blush! We need more people who do.

    I appreciate Dr. Brown’s approach too. Especially his exhortation for us all to look inward. And it is on that note that I’d like to give Dr. Brown something to consider. Do you remember the first time you heard the F-bomb dropped? Did you blush? Were you shocked? Did you think “they should be ashamed of themselves!” I ask that because just before I read this article I read your “Confessions Of A Former Teen Activist”. I truly appreciate your editing such as “Give me the f**king phone”, for example, but I even question whether that goes too far. What is not questionable however, at least in my mind, was the providing a link to a video that does not “bleep out” the profanity laden rant of Hogg.

    I think it’s a valid question to ask why you would edit the written quote if you don’t find it “shameful” but allow one’s ears to be subjected to the actual vulgarities? FWIW, I thought your article was pretty good but, because of that one link and what going there displayed, I couldn’t even share it with anyone else.

    Do you not blush when you hear those words or at the thought of broadcasting them for others to hear? If not, why not?

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