I’m Thankful ‘Born Gay’ Wasn’t Yet a Dogma When I Looked for Help

By Joseph Sciambra Published on July 27, 2017

On June 8, 2017, Facebook Live featured a prominent Catholic priest, James Martin, S.J. He was promoting his book Building a Bridge: How the Catholic Church and the LGBT Community Can Enter into a Relationship of Respect, Compassion, and Sensitivity. Father Martin said:

That’s the way God created you. I think almost every psychologist and biologist and scientist would agree on that; and certainly LGBT people will tell you that’s the way they always felt – that they had been created that way.

Lady Gaga agrees. She gave this theory its anthem with the 2011 hit “Born This Way.” Activists have codified this claim into a dogma. The origins of homosexuality are now “settled science,” we’re told. One researcher boldly declares: “[W]e’re born this way. Let’s deal with it.” One of the most adamant devotees of the “born gay” theory is Mark Joseph Stern. He covers law and LGBTQ issues for “Slate.” He stated unequivocally:

In study after study, biologists have found that homosexuality, at least in men, is clearly, undoubtedly, inarguably an inborn trait.

Others rely less on scientific studies. Instead they attribute their homosexuality to the will of God. When Apple CEO Tim Cook famously “came-out,” he said: “I consider being gay among the greatest gifts God has given me… .”

Did God Make Me Gay?

In some Catholic quarters, the “born gay” theory is accepted and taught. There’s even an LGBT Catholic on-line video series “Owning Our Faith.” It’s a film project sponsored in part by the New York City parish of St. Paul the Apostle, the motherhouse of the Paulist Fathers. In it, one of the men interviewed stated:

God doesn’t make junk — we are His creation. And we might not fit into some traditional box of human relationships, or marriage, but our energies are real, our reality is real, and it’s not just a matter of accepting us, you have to, or tolerate us, you have to encourage us to be who we are. We are God’s creation, and to deny that is to deny that He knows what the hell he’s doing.

Of course, this isn’t just a Catholic problem. Media reported on the reaction of a Mormon church when a 12-year-old parishioner came out in front of the congregation. They weren’t enthused. But the mother of the girl said:

Savannah wants the Church to know that she isn’t bad, that God loves her, and she is gay because she was born that way.

From Fake Science to Bad Constitutional Law

In his documentary Religulous, atheist commentator Bill Maher flatly states: “Nature made gay people.”

The “born gay” argument formed the basis for the Supreme Court’s Obergefell decision. It legalized same-sex marriage. In his majority opinion, Justice Anthony Kennedy wrote:

Far from seeking to devalue marriage, the petitioners seek it for themselves because of their respect — and need — for its privileges and responsibilities. And their immutable nature dictates that same-sex marriage is their only real path to this profound commitment.

This idea is catching on. A 2015 Pew Research Center poll reported that 41 percent of Americans think that “people are born gay or lesbian.”

Science Offers No Answer

But there is nothing like “settled science” on this issue. Even the pro-LGBT American Psychological Association had to concede that:

There is no consensus among scientists about the exact reasons that an individual develops a heterosexual, bisexual, gay or lesbian orientation. Although much research has examined the possible genetic, hormonal, developmental, social and cultural influences on sexual orientation, no findings have emerged that permit scientists to conclude that sexual orientation is determined by any particular factor or factors.

Despite the lack of science the LGBT community insists that only one answer isn’t bigoted. When asked if homosexuality was a choice, Gov. Scott Walker of Wisconsin answered honestly: “I don’t know. …” The Human Rights Campaign, gay-advocacy group, pounced, called his answer “appalling.”

The origins of homosexuality are now “settled science,” we’re told.

To those who believe that they were “born gay,” it’s an indelible part of their identity. CNN anchor Don Lemon once said: “I was born gay, just as I was born black.”

Call the Cops

Gay lobbyists have fought hard to enforce this orthodoxy. They want to suppress and even outlaw therapy sought by people who don’t want to be gay (“reparative therapy”). See The Therapeutic Fraud Prevention Act of 2017.

Gay lobbyists have fought hard to enforce this orthodoxy. They want to suppress and even outlaw therapy sought by people who don’t want to be gay.

I’m glad that no such law was in place when I looked for help. As a disaffected and disheartened “gay” man, I went in search of help. I found very few willing to listen. People I knew through the LGBT community told me that I was suffering from “internalized homophobia.” That I hadn’t truly accepted my identity. A few outside therapists and physicians were willing to listen to my story. One of them was Dr. Joseph Nicolosi, a pioneer of reparative therapy. And a target of staggering hatred among outraged gay activists. When he passed away, the good doctor was reviled as an “arrogant hate-mongering demagogue.”

That’s the price people pay when they violate the unscientific orthodoxy about homosexuality. They’re vilified. Shunned. And soon they may be prosecuted.

Born Gay But Not Male or Female?

We’re now all supposed to march together and say in unison that gays are “born that way.” But at the very same time we can’t say that about … boys and girls. We must believe that one’s sexual desires are genetic and set in stone, but biological sex is fluid and fleeting. It can change with a person’s feelings. And this is still supposed to be “science.”

In parts two and three of this series, I’ll examine how strange that is, in light of my own struggles and my conversion to Jesus Christ.



Joseph Sciambra is author of Swallowed by Satan: How Our Lord Jesus Christ Saved Me from Pornography, Homosexuality, and the Occult.

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  • Paul

    I look forward to reading the rest of this series.

  • JP

    One thing we do know from the lbgt crowd is that facts don’t matter. Reason doesn’t matter.

    • glenbo

      >>”One thing we do know from the lbgt crowd is that facts don’t matter.”<<
      What is the "factual" cause of same-sex attractions?

    • Spectrum

      Yep. Enforced conformity of thought and behaviour is what matters. Dissent against the SJW / gay orthodoxy is strictly not permitted.

      We are heading into a totalitarian society. Check out Canada’s latest pro LGBT law, Bill C-16 for instance. It has horrific implications for free speech.

  • Gary

    There is something very wrong with “scientists”. The people who are supposed to deal in facts and evidence instead deal in speculation and philosophy. They come to their conclusions and then doctor the facts to fit their agenda. Beware of what today is called “science”. Much of it has little to do with reality.

    • salesgirl

      Precisely. Instead of doing the research and drawing a conclusion, they come to a conclusion and go about forcing reality to conform to that conclusion.

      • Spectrum

        The latest example being gender theory.

  • Jim Walker

    Hahahaha ! I always tease my female friends when I was younger that I’m a Lesbian trap in a Man’s Body…

    • Andrew Mason

      Sadly as society becomes increasingly perverse that stops being a joke and starts being considered a normal situation in need of radical cosmetic assistance.

    • Az1seeit

      Hm….a friend of mine used to say that…maybe you know him…?

  • Dhaniele

    Some people are absolutely terrified by heights. Others are claustrophobic. Should we say they were born that way? Should we look for possible genetic causes, etc.?

    • Gary

      The cause for homosexuality is God giving certain people over to it. See Romans chapter one.

      • Psimitar

        While this is true there’s more to it. Homosexuality from a social and cultural standpoint is God’s judgment on a society that fails to acknowledge God as the creator. Verses 18-23 of Romans 1 covers this. Even the apostates are without excuse. Therefore when we as a society have trade God for a lie (i.e. Evolution, Atheism, etc) God gives our society over to a depraved mind.

      • Spectrum

        Gary – “…The cause for homosexuality is God giving certain people over to it….”.

        Hence it’s a behavioural maladaption. They have ungodly and unnatural desires so they act them out. No wonder most gays are atheists and are hostile to God.

  • HardHeadedWoman

    Thanks for an interesting and honest article written by one who actually knows what is going on. I’m looking forward to parts 2 and 3.

  • Josh Shapiro

    Mr. Sciambra, do you mind posting a pic of you, your wife and kids?

    • Shaquille Harvey

      Why ?

  • glenbo

    >>”There is no consensus among scientists about the
    exact reasons that an individual develops a heterosexual, bisexual, gay or
    lesbian orientation—- no findings have emerged that permit scientists to
    conclude that sexual orientation is determined by any particular factor or

    If anyone agrees with this statement, you have no business
    persecuting an entire demographic group (gays) if you don’t have a full
    understanding of why they are gay in the first place.

    The logic here is:

    Person X has done nothing wrong, but he might be a criminal.
    So let’s lock him up for life without any charges, evidence, a defense lawyer or
    court hearing.

    This is a disgusting way to treat our fellow man.

    To marginalize, demonize and persecute all gay people (who
    have committed no crime or done any harm) when it is unknown why they are gay in
    the first place is an abysmal act of immorality based on pure ignorance.

  • Matt Wagner

    Isn’t “I was born this way” kind of a moot point?

    There is evidence that some people are born with a predisposition to being addicted to alcohol. And there are native americans that genetically can’t metabolize alcohol — talk about a real “born this way” situation!

    But should we then encourage and “celebrate” alcoholic lifestyles of these people? Or should try to support them to resist alcoholism and it’s destructive lifestyle?

    AA is to alcoholism as the COURAGE Apostolate is to homosexualism.

  • People don’t always practice homosexual sex for the same reason. Even if a person is born predisposed to a same-sex attraction, this does not excuse the behavior.

  • Steve Bourne

    Thanks Joseph for the article. It is timely for me living here in Australia as we rush to catch up to the civilised world and make Marriage Equality a reality here. The (conservative) Christian view or any view other than one agreeing with the right to equality in marriage for the LGBTI/Q community has been drowned out and the debate has been reduced to equality or bigotry. It is only when a person such as yourself stands up that some credibility can at least be seen by those not drawn in by the simplistic emotional arguments presented. It is probably a lost cause here in Australia notwithstanding some supernatural intervention and even if that should happen the Bible warns of persecution and a falling away in the last days so if not now then soon. As Christians it is our responsibility to challenge these bad decisions with good arguments and calm words. Your words help in that cause as do others like Rosaria Butterfield a former lesbian, now straight and married (with an awesome testimony and insights into the gay community) and Ryan T Anderson with his book “Truth Overruled: The Future of Marriage and Religious Freedom”. it is only with unemotional and sound arguments we will win those who are willing to listen over to our point of view. After that it’s between them and their Will.

  • ben clark

    Homosexuality: Man recreated himself through his sinful nature. Read Romans chapter 1. They didn’t acknowledge or believe God so He gave them up to there vile passion and they became the perversions of there vile desire

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