An Ex-Gay Christian Says It Was Easier to Leave Homosexuality Than to Change His Diet

By Michael Brown Published on December 30, 2016

A man named Eric posted this on my Facebook page, and it was heartbreaking to read.

I have struggled with weight problems for years and it’s catching up with me. On December 5th I spent time in the E.R. due to dangerously high blood pressure. They’re still working on getting the right combo of drugs to get it under control. I am morbidly obese and it is a matter of life and death.

Some of you reading this can relate to Eric’s situation — the fear of imminent heart failure; the knowledge that you are killing yourself with your diet; the hope that doctors can help you but the guilt that you have brought this on yourself. …

But what can you do? You’ve tried every diet you know, you’ve confessed the sin of gluttony or unhealthy eating to the Lord a thousand times over, and still, you’re overweight — grossly overweight — and now it’s threatening your health.

Eric then said this:

I left homosexuality behind 6 years ago. That was SO much easier than getting my weight under control. I do understand being isolated from life due to weight. It’s more than just what people think. It is a physical bondage that fatigues and makes just fitting in a chair difficult. Other than learning about God’s word and knowing Jesus there is nothing I want more than to be healthy.

These are strong words: It was SO much easier to leave homosexuality than to get his weight under control. That is saying a lot.

I know many people who have struggled with same-sex attraction, some experiencing instantaneous, miraculous transformation, others working for years to see those attractions gradually diminish, and still others fighting for decades to see change without any success.

Yet Eric says that leaving homosexuality, obviously by God’s grace, was so much easier than changing his relationship to food.

When God set me free from heavy drug use in 1971 at the age of 16 (including shooting heroin), I couldn’t relate to those who would say, “I’m a recovering drug addict.”

For me, that was a thing of the past, someone who I used to be, and it had no bearing on my life after that. To this day, I do not think of myself as a recovering drug addict.

But when it comes to food, I live as if I’m a recovering food addict. In fact, one of the first chapters in my new book Breaking the Stronghold of Food (written together with my wife Nancy), is entitled, “Confessions of a Recovering Food Addict.”And even though I’ve been totally free from food addictions since late August, 2014, when my lifestyle transformation began, I live as if one wrong bite could set me back. Why play with fire?

After all, illegal drugs do not play a regular role in our lives — in other words, when I quit getting high in 1971, I cut off contact with that old part of my life — but when it comes to food, we need it to live, and we are constantly surrounded by unhealthy food choices.

As someone on the road constantly — traveling 30 hours straight on overseas flights, at endless airports and hotels, being taken out to restaurants all the time — I know how easy it would be to fall back into my old lifestyle. That’s why I don’t make any exceptions to my healthy eating. I recognize that the Lord has given me grace, and I know that one misstep could open the door to another and then another. I do not take my freedom for granted!

Getting back to our friend Eric, for whom I ask you to pray, he wrote this at the end of his post, explaining that there was one more reason he was ordering our new book, and for him, it was another reason to get healthy: “the morbidly obese make poor witnesses for Christ.”

Nancy and I really do understand how difficult the battles are (we’re totally candid in the book, and you’ll laugh — or sigh — at some of our stories), and that’s why there’s not an ounce of condemnation in anything we write.

We don’t want to beat you up, we want to help you out, and we’re convinced that if the Lord could help us, with all our bad eating habits and food addictions, He can help anyone. (For the record, according to recognized weight standards, which are probably a little too generous, we were both obese in the past.)

So, if you find yourself struggling with unhealthy eating habits or food addictions, even if you’re not overweight, there is a solid, lasting way out. And if you’re obese or morbidly obese, all the more are these promises for you. Even when it comes to food, “If the Son sets you free, you will be free indeed” (John 8:36). There is a better way!

 

Special note from the publisher: Breaking the Stronghold of Food releases on January 3, but if you order your copy of the paperback version of the book today — the offer ends January 7 —  using the StrongholdofFood.com website, you will also get the e-book absolutely free, plus the first three chapters will be sent to you in PDF form to start reading immediately.

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  • Joseph

    I believe it is possible to be ex-homosexual I mean the Bible nowhere backs the idea that some people are born LGBT. This whole ‘I was born this way’ is something you only hear outside of the Bible but you never find this in the Bible and the fact that the Bible condemns this very thing as not only as a sin but also as an abomination are you really going to tell me that you were born that way and God created you that way? I don’t think so.

    • m-nj

      I am not sure exactly where your comment is going? As a scientist, there is reasonable data that indicates people can have tendencies towards addictions (drugs, food, alcohol) or sinful behaviors or attitudes (violence, lust, etc.). The INTERPRETATION of the data is the key. While unbelieving scientists say, for example, this proves that homosexuality is “natural”, I believe these data are just more evidence of the profound negative impacts of the Fall (original sin) on creation. These findings in NO WAY EXCUSE THESE SINFUL ATTITUDES OR BEHAVIORS, and in no way allows the one to say, “God made me this way, so it can’t be sinful.” In Christ alone, we can struggle, and by God’s grace, overcome the “natural man” with all its evil intentions and desires (yet imperfectly this side of glory).

      In contrast, the “evidence” for Darwinian evolution is just fabricated “just so” stories, so I agree that the idea “God used evolution to create us” is straight out of the pit of hell. On that we can agree.

    • Joseph

      ”I am not sure exactly where your comment is going? As a scientist, there is reasonable data that indicates people can have tendencies towards addictions (drugs, food, alcohol) or sinful behaviors or attitudes (violence, lust, etc.). The INTERPRETATION of the data is the key. While unbelieving scientists say, for example, this proves that homosexuality is “natural”, I believe these data are just more evidence of the profound negative impacts of the Fall (original sin) on creation. These findings in NO WAY EXCUSE THESE SINFUL ATTITUDES OR BEHAVIORS, and in no way allows the one to say, “God made me this way, so it can’t be sinful.” In Christ alone, we can struggle, and by God’s grace, overcome the “natural man” with all its evil intentions and desires (yet imperfectly this side of glory).

      In contrast, the “evidence” for Darwinian evolution is just fabricated “just so” stories, so I agree that the idea “God used evolution to create us” is straight out of the pit of hell. On that we can agree.” response not by me I just reposted it

  • Patmos

    When Jesus was crucified our old man was crucified with him, and as Christ was raised up from the dead by the glory of the Father, we also walk in newness of life.

    If any man be in Christ, he is a new creature! Old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new.

    Furthermore, Paul wrote that he desires that you affirm these things constantly. That is no burden, to walk in the newness of life. Hallelujah.

  • M Didaskalos

    1 Cor. 10:13 “No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man. God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation he will also provide the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it.”

    Yes, we all have succumbed and will succumb to temptations, but there’s always forgiveness from God when we confess our sins, repent, and ask for His forgiveness. He’s assured us in His Word: 1 John 8: “If we say we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us. 9 If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.”

  • Craig Roberts

    Sounds like the ‘health and wealth gospel’ without the wealth.

  • Stogiebear

    The LGBT activists claim that there are no ex-gays. That’s like saying “diets never work.” They DO work, for the people who are really committed. Same for sexual addiction. If you really want to break out of that lifestyle, you can, especially with God at your back.

    • anne55

      Curious about this. This man says he has left being gay behind and it was easier than losing weight. However, he doesn’t say what he replaced it with…is he simply celibate as a way to avoid homosexual feelings? Or is he in a relationship with a woman now? If his weight is that extreme, he might be finding dating difficult. So, I’m interested if this is a case of really becoming heterosexual or simply denying one’s basic self?

  • galatians328

    That’s great!

    Americans – and perhaps others of other nations – reading hear are overweight to the point or degree of harming the body that God created for them. Eating is to provide chemical energy to sustain the body’s functions, … and of course, for the pleasurable tastes and sensations, aromas and other qualities, through the senses that God created for us … and of course for the wholesome work of growing plants (bushes, bulbs, roots, trees, stalks, tubers etc), raising food animals if you eat animals, harvesting, preparing them to eat … and of course for the social milieu of sharing food with others.

    What a wonderful gift God created as the human body! We should rejoice and be glad in God’s creation! God is wonderful!

    PS: the ‘ex-gay’ thing was just silly. Seriously, from a Facebook post?! I can find a zillion Facebook posts that report that it was easier to lose weight than to get the cable guy/gal to keep their appointment time, or easier to mail yourself to China than to use that self-checkout at the Piggly Wiggly, or easier to avoid alien abduction than to avoid White Supremacists at a Trump rally, etc ….

  • Liz Litts

    I have been on my weight loss journey for about a year and a half now–it’s been a long hard road, but with the Lord’s help I have dropped 150lbs and I am still going–yes it is tough and yes you can develope depenence on junk foods or too much of one patircular food-the key is balance and trust in the Lord and your doctors. I had surgery–it does not work for everyone, but it’s working for me. I also have been blessed with an excellent team of weight loss people who support me in every way-and I have the support of my family. If I have learned anything, it to be willing to do my part and God will do the rest. Yes, there have been hard times(in fact I am going through one now) but I have the faith that the bad times will not be forever. Like every other sin-you just have to hang in there with the Lord and be willing to keep on no matter who things look on the outside.

  • Nick Stuart

    Bought the Kindle edition. If I get one good idea it’ll be worth the $9.99.

  • In the lions’ den

    But for the grace of God….

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