Straight-Up: Things No One Else May Have Told You
Part One of a Straight-Up Conversation With Young People
Young ladies and gentlemen, let’s talk. Let’s get a table in a virtual coffee shop (make mine a coconut milk mocha) and you can get comfortable. This is really important, so please give me a chance. Hear me out. It’s straight-up, truth-tellin’ time.
I confess I probably can’t relate to many (most?) of you. I grew up in an intact home with both my parents. They loved each other and they loved me and my siblings (all full-blood siblings). Ours was a healthy, happy and safe home. I know that makes me the most blessed person in the world. I’ve been thankful for that every day of my life.
I hope that’s your reality as well, and if so, thank God for it. But it’s pretty likely you come from a family that’s been fractured by divorce. Maybe you’ve got step-parents and step-siblings and half-siblings. Maybe you have to go back and forth between two homes. Maybe you hate it. I know I would. Maybe you think no one cares how you feel or what you need.
Maybe your parents were never married at all. Maybe you don’t even know your father. Or maybe he’s little more than a stranger, some guy you see once in a while but have no real bond with. Maybe you’ve never known your mother.
Nope, I can’t relate to any of that. I have not walked in those shoes. So what gives me the right to say anything to you? What do I know about anything?
Trouble Leads Only to Trouble
I don’t have to walk down every troubled road to know it only leads to trouble. What I want to do here is lend you a different pair of shoes. I’d like to point you down a different road; one that leads to life and wholeness.
It starts with the moral laws, and I have first-hand experience in what happens when you live by them. Just as there are laws of physics, there are moral laws, too. They’ve been established by God just like the laws of physics. What are these laws? Start with the Ten Commandments. (We’ll get into more specifics later on.)
I don’t want you to be the next round of carnage.
I know what it means to be blessed by the moral choices my parents made. I also see the many blessings and joys that have come into my life because of right choices I’ve made (by the grace of God). I know what a difference it makes to obey the commands of God, and I can see the endless varieties of misery that people suffer when they disobey God’s laws. I’ve suffered the consequences of some immoral choices I’ve made, too.
I’ve seen the devastating effects of divorce, adultery, alcoholism, drug use, pornography and promiscuous sex. I don’t have to personally engage in all those things to know how deadly they are. I have eyes to see the carnage all around me.
I don’t want you to be the next round of carnage. I want you to make choices that will let you live a life free of the misery around you; perhaps the misery you’ve grown up with.
But to do that, you have to understand that everything the culture is telling you is wrong. I’m sorry to say it, but there it is. It’s all a lie. “The truth is, freedom is not the right to do whatever we want, but the right to do what we ought.” (St. John Paul II)
People throughout history have tried a million times over to do it their way, and the result is always misery and pain.
Following the Moral Laws Leads to Life
Why do you tell a child not to touch the hot burner on the stove? Because you know, even if he doesn’t, that he’ll get burned and suffer great pain and bodily damage.
The moral laws are exactly the same, except that the consequences for ignoring them are far greater than a burned hand. Your whole life, and even your soul, is in serious danger if you disregard what is right. Yes, there is objective right and wrong. And God decides which is which — not you, not me.
The law of gravity doesn’t care if you don’t believe in it. It’ll work just the same. You’ll get hurt if you do something stupid because you think you can defy gravity. You’re not special that way. The natural laws won’t suspend their effects just to please you. It is true with the moral laws as well. You can deny them, pretend they don’t matter, and act as though you’re immune to the consequences, but you will still suffer.
Again, you’re not special. People before you have tried their best to violate the moral laws and evade the fallout and it never works. They suffered, and their children suffered, and their children’s children suffered. People throughout history have tried a million times over to do it their way, and the result is always misery and pain.
We will all suffer in our lives. We will all have crosses to carry. We cannot avoid it. That doesn’t mean we ought to add to our suffering, and to the suffering of others, through our stupidity and rebellion. This isn’t “in for a penny, in for a pound.” You can greatly minimize the pain and chaos in your life by choosing wisely. You can increase the joy and stability of your life by acting with prudence. You can maximize the blessing in your life by living with virtue.
That is what God wants for you. That’s what I want for you, too.
You Were Made for This Very Hour
You’re growing up in a corrupt culture, but generations before you have also lived in corrupt cultures. These are your times. You were born for this hour in history. No one has kicked God off His throne, and He hasn’t gone missing. He loves you and has plans for your future that are overflowing with hope.
Let me leave you with this thought: Those moral laws are doorways to happiness. It’s not about “Don’t do this!” or “You can’t do that!”
It’s, “Do this and LIVE!”
Stay with me. There’s a lot more we need to talk about.
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