Protect the Children Part 4: What Is Grooming Culture and How Is Your School Promoting It?

By John Amanchukwu Published on May 28, 2024

This is Part 4 of a 14-part series on how to confront leftist indoctrination in your child’s school. If you want to be part of the parental revolution, this series will help you learn how to reorient school systems back toward biblical ethics to ensure our kids can safely learn, grow, and be nurtured in environments that prioritize knowledge over dogma, truth over lies, and virtue over vice.


“Grooming” is a charged term that has emerged as one of the chief areas of concern for parents seeking to protect their children from woke indoctrination.

As a general concept, “grooming” has often been associated with child predators seeking to sexualize children or prepare them for sexual activities with adults. However, there is a more generic definition that describes a broader range of activities and behaviors designed to inculcate children into meeting adults’ desires, and we’re seeing it in public schools across the land.

Here’s what you need to look for.

Inappropriate Sexual Content in Libraries

“Grooming culture” can describe the means by which woke activists attempt to indoctrinate children into adopting the tenets of Critical Theory so that they can advance an agenda of societal deconstruction beyond the classroom. However, through that process, essential and longstanding boundaries that protect children from sexual deviance become eroded. In fact, erasing such boundaries is the explicit aim of Radical Gender Theory (which we discussed in Part 1 of this series).

In my travels to confront school boards nationwide about radical ideologies, I have most often spoken against the proliferation of inappropriate sexual content in school libraries and in classroom curricula. I simply read aloud from this material, and immediately, school boards are put on the defensive, routinely embarrassed, and forced to deal with the ramifications of facilitating a “grooming culture.”

(This is also the most frequent reason I am kicked out of meetings!)

Lowering Children’s Barriers

While the filth that may be found in your children’s schools does not mean most of the faculty are actively “grooming” of your children, it does mean they may be creating the conditions necessary for potential predators to isolate, manipulate, and abuse your children.

In this context, grooming culture can be defined as: “The deliberate act of attempting to manipulate or cultivate children to become activists by exposing them to a particular sexual, gender, or subversive ideology or lifestyle without the parents’ knowledge or consent.” 

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The widespread embrace of Radical Gender Theory (sometimes referred to as Queer Theory) allows grooming culture to thrive in public schools.

So how do you tell if yours is facilitating grooming culture?

Evaluating the Culture of Your Child’s School

This requires active inquiry and detective work on your part. Some clues to look for:

  • Does a teacher or faculty member discuss sexually inappropriate conduct or content on social media?
  • Has a teacher or faculty member ever asked students to hide information from their parents?
  • Does the teacher or faculty member prominently display imagery or paraphernalia signaling affiliation with a particular sexual preference, “gender identity,” or sexually focused organization or cause?
  • Does the teacher or faculty member primarily view themselves through the prism of his or her sexual identity?
  • Do the school library or curricula contain sexually inappropriate material (books, readings, videos, etc.) for student consumption?
  • Does the instruction encourage students to celebrate particular sexual orientations or causes while on school grounds?
  • Does the school employ faculty members who are specifically assigned to affirm or nurture students’ self-described sexual or “gender identities”?

If the answer to any of these questions is “yes,” then there is ample evidence that your child’s school is operating in a manner that spreads grooming culture. Depending on the extent, it is also possible that it employs adult predators. This should trigger an action response among prospective Cyclones to elevate concerns directly to the school board and to press for full transparency of the material and instruction being administered within the school.

The Prevalence of Adult Sexual Misconduct

According to a 2017 U.S. Department of Education report, nearly one in 10 students is subjected to some form of sexual misconduct — defined as anything ranging from an inappropriate comment to sexual assault — from school officials or teachers during their K-12 years. This means that nearly five million of the roughly 50 million children in our public schools will experience some form of adult sexual misconduct before they graduate from high school. 

Therefore, you should keep an eye out for the following books and materials. While this list is far from exhaustive, the following books should never be found within the walls of your child’s school:

  • Gender Queer by Maia Kobabe
  • Lawn Boy by Jonathan Evison
  • Push by Sapphire
  • The Glass Castle: A Memoir by Jeannette Walls
  • All Boys Aren’t Blue by George Johnson
  • Big Hard Sex Criminals by Matt Fraction
  • Make Something Up: Stories You Can’t Unread by Chuck Palahniuk
  • Fifty Shades of Grey by E.L. James
  • Me and Earl and the Dying Girl by Jesse Andrews
  • Flamer by Mike Curato
  • It’s Perfectly Normal by Robie Harris
  • Identical by Ellen Hopkins
  • Saga by Brian Vaughan and Fiona Staples
  • Habibi by Craig Thompson
  • Out of Darkness by Ashley Hope Perez
  • This Book is Gay by Juno Dawson
  • Beyond Magenta by Susan Kuklin
  • George by Alex Gino
  • This One Summer by Mariko Tamaki
  • Looking for Alaska by John Green
  • Sex is a Funny Word by Cory Silverberg
  • Prince & Knight by Daniel Haack
  • I Am Jazz by Jessica Herthel and Jazz Jennings
  • Drama by Raina Telgemeier
  • A Day in the Life of Marlon Bundo by Jill Twiss
  • This Day in June by Gayle Pittman
  • A Church for All by Gayle Pittman
  • Two Boys Kissing by David Levithan
  • Julian Is a Mermaid by Jessica Love
  • Jacob’s New Dress by Sarah and Ian Hoffman
  • Jacob’s School Play Starring He, She, and They by Sarah and Ian Hoffman
  • This is Ruby by Sara O’Leary and Alea Marley

The presence of these books — either in the school library or as part of broader curricula — signals at a bare minimum the failure of faculty and administrators to properly vet what is being taught or made available to students.

The more pervasive these things are, the more likely it is that the school is employing one or more individuals intentionally seeking to groom children.

They’re Trying to Weaken Your Kids’ Inhibitions

It’s important to remember that the goal of these radical ideologies and practices is to weaken your child’s inhibitions so that he or she will become susceptible to embracing adult desires.

Confront the school board with the perverted content in these books in an intentional effort to ban them. Demand that new parameters be established to filter out any material that promulgates sexually inappropriate or explicit content aimed at students.

There is nothing more dangerous or harmful to your child than adults seeking to prey on their minds and, God forbid, their bodies. Treat this threat with the seriousness it deserves.


John K. Amanchukwu Sr. is the Amazon bestselling author of Eraced: Uncovering the Lies of Critical Race Theory and Abortion (Salem Books, 2022). He currently serves as the first assistant and youth pastor of Upper Room Church of God in Christ in Wake Forest, North Carolina, where he lives with his wife, Crystal, and their three children.

This article has been adapted from his resource, The Cyclone 400 Tool Kit: Protecting Our Children and Reclaiming Our Communities.

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