Fear and Loathing in La La Land

By David Kyle Foster Published on April 7, 2018

Why do they hate us? Why do they try to keep us from doing what is right? Why try to convince us to support an unhealthy agenda?

Recently, gay activists have attempted to persuade California (La La Land) legislators to outlaw all professional therapy and ministry to gays and lesbians, designed to help them find healing for their brokenness. They’re calling it “fraudulent schemes.” It would apply not only to therapists but also to ministers of the Gospel, as well as to any attempt to help the struggling homosexual via the media.

Inventing Fiction

California has already  outlawed such help for minors. Consider the mother whose child has been homosexually abused, is feeling same-sex attractions, and is now threatening suicide. She cannot get help for the child’s same-sex attractions. The child can’t get help, not even of his or her own volition, not even with parental consent.

This is very hard to understand. Jesus Christ can set the captive free. It is from love that ministers of the gospel proclaim this good news. For some of us, it is from our own experience as ex-gays that we shout from the housetops. We want everyone who wants to repent of their sin to know that they can be forgiven. They can be healed of those things that have been destroying their lives.

No one in the healing ministry or even in secular therapy is giving lobotomies to gays, or shock therapy, or imprisoning them in conversion camps. No one is forcing anyone to do anything! Gay activists have invented these fictions, perhaps subconsciously afraid that they might be living a lie.

They certainly have the right to remain as they are. But they do not have the right to misrepresent and slander an entire group of people. We only want to share the good news that has set them free from what is, overall, a very lonely and dangerous life.

Gay activists don’t want you to know that people can be healed of the traumas that have created their broken impulses.

Following Christ

Neither do such activists have the right to misrepresent the value of reparative therapy and Christian ministry for those who wish to leave the gay lifestyle. Often these people aren’t seeking change only for their emotional health. Often they’re responding as well to the call of Jesus to follow the moral teachings of Holy Scripture.

According to 1 Corinthians 6:9-11, people were leaving the gay lifestyle 2,000 years ago to follow Christ. By now, ex-gays must number in the millions! I have met thousands of them myself.

But gay activists don’t want you to know that people can be healed of the traumas that have created their broken impulses? Why not? Why do they rail against anyone who would point out such a thing? Why do they assail those who have experienced God’s release from sin and brokenness? Though it is common to find homosexuals who have been bullied in our day, many have become bullies!

The Dangers of Homosexuality

From the earliest research in the matter, science has shown without question that the gay lifestyle is dangerous for those who practice it. The cause of homosexuality is largely, if not entirely, developmental. After spending tens of millions of dollars trying to prove gays are “born that way,” all researchers have found is that genetics may contribute to a tendency. That’s miles from “born this way.” And it’s even further from “it’s normal and fine and healthy to be this way.”

Meanwhile there are mountains of clinical evidence showing that homosexuality results from trauma, neglect, abuse and/or a host of other unhealthy contributing causes.

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Life expectancy among homosexuals is dramatically lower than the rest of the population. This is even true in the areas of the world where homosexuality is the most accepted and celebrated. They have significantly higher suicide rates, domestic violence rates, substance abuse rates, depression and other mental health issues. They experience an extremely high incidence of disease and other medical problems. Medicine has developed virtual specialty in the plethora of diseases that result from gay sexual practices.

False Claims

So why would activists profess that gays are just as happy and healthy as everyone else?

Even more puzzling, why do they try to shut the mouths of anyone who disagrees? Don’t they care about their own people?

And why do they lie to lawmakers? Why do they seek to outlaw freedom of speech and religion — for those who are honestly and lovingly trying to help them?

Maybe it’s about the money. Maybe it’s about the power. For decades gay activists have misrepresented therapy and other ministry intended to help those who wish to leave the gay lifestyle.

In reality, if you support gay activism, you harm the very people you are trying to help.

Just one of the dozens of gay activist groups takes in over $40 million dollars each year, spends $11 million on salaries and a quarter million dollars to pay lobbyists to push their agenda in Congress.

All of that is put at risk if gays and lesbians are not born that way. It all comes to an end if it becomes known that it is a very unhealthy lifestyle. It all crashes to the ground if they can be healed of the experiences that helped cause their same-sex attractions.

Maybe it’s money and power; maybe it’s also about very broken people lashing out against anyone who gets in their way.

Playing the Victim

Activists take advantage of the generous and honest impulses of people who want to do the right thing for those who struggle with same-sex attractions. They have become masters at playing the victim. This emotional manipulation has been a well-known, published strategy of gay activism since the 1950s. But it is becoming more and more difficult to maintain their victim façade as they use their recently acquired power to silence those who speak the truth in love.

What is at stake here is the emotional and spiritual health of our children. They’re being sacrificed on the altar of denial, deception, money, power and political gain.

If you think you are doing the loving thing by supporting gay activism, you are wrong — very, very wrong. In reality, you are harming the very people you are trying to help. It’s time we stopped living in La La Land and did what is right for a change.

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  • John Connor

    While I don’t agree with denying therapy of any sort to adults, children are another matter and this stuff shouldn’t be forced on them.

    Not a single major medical organization supports reparative therapy for children.

    “Life expectancy among homosexuals is dramatically lower than the rest of the population “ Paul Cameron, the man who pushed this theory, was found to have pulled his “research “ from obituaries in the newspaper. He was thrown out of his own professional society.

    I would also like to be pointed to the mountains of clinical evidence of the causes of homosexuality.


    • Andrew Mason

      Not a single major medical organisation? And how many major medical organisations are vocal in opposing child abuse, the castration or poisoning of children with chemical compounds to support a trans life? How many oppose the indoctrination of school children, even preschoolers with homofascist or transfascist ideology? How many support the rights of religiously oriented children, or those raised in such environments, to be free from abuse or protect them from ‘professionals’ who want to ‘protect’ them from their orientation? Standard liberal view of tolerance for me and mine but not thee and thine.

      Factoring in suicides and deaths due to AIDS etc the claim that life expectancy amongst homosexuals is lower than the rest of the population is obvious. Dramatically less is a political position, and of course given their prevalence in highly paid positions – academia, the media, law etc, they can afford a healthier diet, better medication etc so a blanket comparison with the general population may be misleading – a case of lying with statistics.

      • John Connor

        Calm down

    • Howard

      Take a look at history. “Major medical organizations” and other professional societies never go too far against the will of those in power, whether in this country or any other country. It’s easy to understand why that would be; professionals get positions and funding from the powerful, they are regulated by the powerful, and they like to be seen with the powerful. As a result, professional societies are more useful for indicating which way the wind is perceived to be blowing than for an independent critique of those in power.

      • Ken Abbott

        Professional societies–particularly in medicine–also tend to be top-heavy with academics, and medical academics are just as inclined to leftism as their non-medical counterparts. [That’s a personal observation, John Connor, based on a couple decades’ worth of experience in and out of academic medicine.] They are also very sensitive to their portrayal in media.

  • Tim Pan

    This seems to be a free exercise issue.

  • Kaz

    As usual, the state is supposed to care more about the kids than the parents do. This is so vile.

  • Howard

    “Consider the mother whose child has been homosexually abused, is feeling same-sex attractions, and is now threatening suicide.” She has, plainly and simply, a duty to leave California. It is irresponsible to place the inconvenience of moving above the interests of her child, or to pretend that by staying in state and sacrificing her child, she is some sort of patriotic hero.

    • Bryan

      That’s a great thought. Sometimes it’s much easier said than done. I’m not saying it’s impossible, but Especially in today’s culture where debt is a way of life. My family is not in CA, but even still, it would be extremely difficult to pack up and move in a moment. We bought into the college loan fantasy and we’re still paying the price of our poor decisions during those years. We’re working towards financial freedom but we’re not there yet. It’s easy to accuse when it’s not our burden; at least it is for me.

      • Howard

        Who said anything about it being easy, or about it being just that the family is forced to become kind of refugees? I’m just saying that priorities are priorities. It would be hard to grab your family and run out of your house if the house were burning out of control, but anyone except a fool would do it, and probably feel pretty blessed if they had the whole family even after the house was gone. Under the hypothetical circumstances specified in the article, the situation would be entirely analogous.

        • Bryan

          I didn’t say it should be easy. I was commenting on the fact that many of us give pat answers, especially in this type of nearly anonymous forum, that are straight-forward and direct with the impression that to not do exactly what we think is in the least foolish and at most a mortal sin. I agree that if faced with that situation, then a review and potential reshuffling of priorities is in order. And from that drastic change may be necessary.
          Let me ask you a question: If you were suddenly faced with a situation where you had to leave your home and state in a week’s time with your family (or a hypothetical family if you’re a bachelor), could you do it? Do you have the capital to find a new place to live while getting a house ready for sale? Is your job mobile enough that you could work from anywhere or are you tied to a particular location?
          Also before you say that you never said anything about a week or a specific timeline, the timeline is not the point. The point is you’re condemning anyone who would stay in that place or situation without regard for their perspective or circumstances and it is unlikely that you would be so cavalier if you were in a similarly desperate situation.

          • Howard

            How many dead family members would it take for you to think it was worse than financial ruin? One kid is obviously not enough — I guess you count on being able to have more later. All your kids? Your wife, too? Then again, maybe you could remarry.

          • Bryan

            In most cases you aren’t dealing with a suicidal child, or not a truly suicidal child. (How many kids threaten suicide to get attention?) In the case of an emergency or in the hypothetical situation you’re describing, absolutely get the child out to get help. However, that doesn’t necessarily entail picking up and moving as I was describing the situation. You move to a temporary solution first then deal with the rest.
            From your first reply you stated you weren’t talking about becoming some sort of refugee. But in a case like this that’s what might be necessary in order to get help to get through the most difficult part.
            Is your goal to have a discussion or is your goal to be right? From your last comment, which I categorize as being callous and disgusting, I’m assuming being right in your own eyes is more important than having a serious discussion.

          • Howard

            Sure, make that assumption. What’s the worst that can happen?

          • Bryan

            Howard, my ability to read was confounded by your inability to use a simple comma. I’ve also noticed that you have no problem insulting other’s intelligence but you have yet to deal with the personal situation I posed to you. You seem to have no problem dealing with someone else’s hypothetical life, but when the situation is yours to play out, you ignore it, hoping your insults will cover your avoidance of the personal. My suggestion is that you should start planning for the day when you are this hypothetical parent.

          • Howard

            Whatever. I’m just glad I’m not the child of some dude who would have to think really hard about whether his kids or his student loans are more important.

          • Howard

            I think we were probably talking past each other. At any rate, let me give this one more try.

            My statement at the very beginning was about duty, about what people ought to do, not about what I or any other sinner might actually do. People ought to place the safety of their families above nearly every other good, certainly including convenience and material possessions.

            What you, I, or other people actually do is often different from what we ought to do. There is a reason we have to cry out “Crucify Him!” in the Palm Sunday liturgy; it is the response we give through our actions just about every day of the year.

            It is worth noting that although unjust laws may not be able to force a person into sin, they can make it much more difficult to resist temptation. In many cases, that is precisely what they are designed to do. Such laws do not square the circle and make wrong right, but they can make it a very real sacrifice to do what is right, and in some cases they may lessen the guilt of those who fall to temptation.

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