When Transgender Children are Harmed by the People Who Intended to Help Them

By Amy K. Hall Published on October 8, 2017

Here’s a heartbreaking story out of Australia about a boy and his mother who circumvented the law (with the “help” of doctors) in order to start his transitioning process at age 12. He has since decided he wants to be a boy after all, but now he has to have surgery to reverse results of the hormone treatments.

Our culture assumes that love demands we affirm and enable people’s choices no matter what, but that’s not what love is. “Greater love has no one than this, that one lay down his life for his friends” (John 15:13), and sometimes, dying for the sake of others means accepting their anger and abuse when, for their good, you don’t give them what they’re asking for. The doctors who should have been looking out for this boy’s best interests ended up tragically harming him. And there will be many more like him because 70%-80% of children who report transgender feelings spontaneously lose those feelings after puberty, without any medical treatment.

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People on both sides of this debate want to help the children involved; the question is merely how to best help them. If you find yourself in a debate with friends on this topic, I’ve recommended clarifying this distinction for them with a question like this one:

I really appreciate your desire to be gracious and help people. That’s a great motivation, and I share that with you. Since we both want to help transgender people, here’s my question for you: Hypothetically, if it were the case that people are actually harmed by denying their biological gender, would you still encourage them to do so?

And then perhaps share this video with them.



Originally published at Stand to Reason. Reprinted with permission.

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  • Trilemma

    Hypothetically, if it were the case that people are actually harmed by trying to live with their biological gender, would you still encourage them to do so?

    Until doctors can tell who would still be transgender after puberty, it looks like the best approach would be to wait till after puberty to start any medical transition procedures such as hormones or surgery.

    • tasha63

      Doctors use puberty blockers to delay puberty in transgendered children, effectively buying time for them to see if they still feel they are truly the wrong gender. If you wait until after puberty to transition, there are certain things you can’t change. Height for one. A transgendered male will typically be shorter in stature because of the onset of menses. A transgendered female may always have a deeper voice.

      • Trilemma

        I agree that medical transition works best when started before puberty but, according to the research mentioned in the article, that could lead to many unnecessary transitions. Puberty blockers aren’t really buying time because all they’re doing is maintaining pre-puberty feelings that would probably disappear after the hormone rush of puberty. So that leaves us with a dilemma. Early medical transition could hurt some patients while waiting could hurt others.

  • Jennifer Hartline

    There is no such thing as a “transgender” child. There may be children genuinely confused about their bodies and their sex, but the human person is never “transgender.” We need to stop using this language as though it were a reality. It’s a delusion, and it’s preying on our children.

    • John Connor

      Funny how major medical associations disagree with you.

      • BroFrank

        Not funny, tragic (Romans 10:3, 1:21,22).

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