How Do You Talk to Kids About God? Interview with Author Natasha Crain

By Sean McDowell Published on March 16, 2018

With the popularity of her blog and books, Natasha Crain has exploded onto the scene as an important voice for raising children in the Christian faith. She gave me the opportunity to write the foreword for her second book, Talking with Your Kids about God. She not only offers answers to some of the toughest questions kids ask about God, she offers practical steps for how parents can teach biblical truths to their kids. Talking with Your Kids about God is one of the few books I consider a “must read” for parents.

Natasha answered a few of my questions about her life, ministry, and writing projects. Enjoy!

SEAN MCDOWELL: As a mom, what motivates you to care so much about reasons for confidence in the faith?

NATASHA CRAIN: When I first started blogging six years ago, I didn’t know about apologetics, the field that studies these reasons. I just wanted to write about Christian parenting in general. But once people began sharing my posts online, my blog started attracting skeptics who wanted to challenge just about everything I said about Christianity. I had no idea how to respond. Honestly, I was taken aback. How could I have grown up in a Christian home, attended church all my life, and never heard these challenges? How could I not have any answers to offer?

How could I have grown up in a Christian home, attended church all my life, and never heard these challenges? How could I not have any answers to offer?

I started searching, and I learned what apologetics was. I buried myself in reading and fell in love with the beauty of all the evidence God has given us for the truth of Christianity.

In that process, though, I also learned for the first time that at least 60 percent of kids reject their Christian faith by their early 20s. That was an “aha” moment for me, for the research showed that kids were leaving their faith due to the same kinds of objections I was hearing from my blog commenters. I realized that there’s a generational gap: Most parents are like I was before starting my blog — they simply don’t have any idea how powerful the faith challenges are today. Their kids are growing up in a completely different world than the one they grew up in. They have no idea much they need to adjust their discipleship accordingly.

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So, to answer the original question, I am passionate about apologetics because I’ve experienced the force of today’s faith challenges firsthand through my blog, and I see what’s happening behind all those statistics of kids leaving their faith. There’s nothing more important to me than raising kids to know and love Jesus, and I’m convinced apologetics is a core part of that discipleship today. At the same time, I care about equipping other parents with this knowledge — helping to close the generational gap. And that’s why I spend the time to write my blog and books.

MCDOWELL: You’ve recently written your second book, Talking with Your Kids about God. What makes this different from your first book: Keeping Your Kids on God’s Side?

CRAIN: They have similar titles, but they’re very different books!

Keeping Your Kids on God’s Side is a broad survey book of 40 important questions across the big areas of God, truth and worldviews, Jesus, the Bible, and science. It’s an “apologetics 101,” written specifically for parents.

Talking with Your Kids about God starts a series of books that will dig more deeply into ONE of those big subjects at a time. Talking with Your Kids about God focuses on 30 conversations about God. My next one, Talking with Your Kids about Jesus, will focus on 30 conversations about Jesus.

There’s nothing more important to me than raising kids to know and love Jesus, and I’m convinced apologetics is a core part of that discipleship today.

One valuable feature of this series is a conversation guide at the end of every chapter that walks parents step-by-step through questions to ask their kids. The idea there is to enable conversation on that chapter’s content. The guides are adaptable for use with elementary through high school age kids. People have been using them for small groups, youth groups, Sunday schools, homeschools and family devotions! Talking with Your Kids about God is a natural next reading step for those who have already read Keeping Your Kids on God’s Side. But those who haven’t read my first book can jump straight into this new series with no problem. Both are written in an easy-to-understand, parent-to-parent voice, with chapters only about 5 pages each — totally reasonable for even the busiest parent!

MCDOWELL: If you had to narrow it down, what are the top 2 subjects about God that we need to talk with our kids about today? And what are a few key points you make in these conversations?

CRAIN: Without a doubt, the most important question I think parents need to discuss with their kids today is, “What evidence is there for God’s existence?” While atheists are still fewer than 10 percent of Americans, their numbers are growing quickly. Many atheists are quite vocal about their disdain for Christianity. I’d say an overwhelming majority of faith challenges encountered today are rooted in the fundamental question of whether or not God exists. Yet this is a question most parents don’t know how to tackle with their kids, other than by sharing their own personal experiences. The first six chapters of Talking with Your Kids about God are devoted to this question.

Some key points parents should learn to discuss are:

  • The objective evidence for God’s existence (outside of our personal experiences). We aren’t called to a blind faith or our best guess regarding ultimate reality.
  • The relationship between science and God. Skeptics often pit science and God against each other and Christians believe they have to make a choice. This isn’t the case at all, and it’s an important area parents need to be able to speak to.

MCDOWELL: In terms of kids walking away from their faith, how important do you think apologetics is?

CRAIN: It’s clear that intellectual questions drive many kids away from faith, not knowing answers to basic apologetics questions. It’s truly a shame that many of them never had adults in their lives who could discuss those answers. But it’s also true that many people reject Christianity for emotional reasons. They don’t like what the Bible says about morality, they think Christians are too hypocritical, or they don’t like the church. In those cases, a lack of apologetics understanding isn’t necessarily the issue.

MCDOWELL: What practical advice do you have for busy parents and youth influencers who want to help kids learn to defend their faith?

CRAIN: Focus on helping kids learn the positive case for the truth of Christianity first. Then focus on helping them learn to defend its truth. Kids need to know why it’s worth defending before they’ll care. To that end, have a plan. Because we’re all very busy, and teaching apologetics takes effort, if we don’t have a strategy, we’re unlikely to do much. But that doesn’t have to mean doing something elaborate. With the help of my books, you can use the following four questions that make the case for Christianity. You could teach your kids even just one point each week in response to one of the questions — in the car, over dinner, before bed, or any other time:

  • What evidence is there for God’s existence?
  • Do all religions point to the same truth?
  • What evidence is there for Jesus’ resurrection?
  • How do we know the Bible is reliable?

After you’ve taught something in answer to each question (no matter how small!), start over with the first question again, and add another layer of understanding over the next few weeks. It doesn’t take a lot of time, but it does take intentionality. That intentionality also assumes that the parent is committed to equipping him or herself with some of this basic knowledge in order to pass it on.

 

Sean McDowell, Ph.D. is a professor of Christian Apologetics at Biola University, best-selling author, popular speaker, part-time high school teacher, and the Resident Scholar for Summit Ministries, California. Follow him on Twitter: @sean_mcdowell and his blog: seanmcdowell.org.  

Adapted for The Stream with permission from SeanMcDowell.org.

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