Christians’ View of Sexuality: Not Singling Out a Sin, But Pursuing the Positive

By Alan Shlemon Published on November 7, 2017

I’m often asked why the sin of homosexuality is singled out. The answer is simple: it’s not. Scripture identifies it as merely one type of sexual activity that’s prohibited. There are several others. But it’s important to back up a bit to understand the context.

The Bible is not merely a book of prohibitions or rules with a list of dos and don’ts. It also paints a positive picture (a beautiful one at that!) of what life is supposed to be like, how humans were created to flourish, and what sexual activity should be like. It makes sense that Scripture includes those parameters because God is our creator, designer and engineer. He knows best how we’re supposed to function. Just like the engineers of a car know best how it’s supposed to operate, so God knows best how we’re supposed to operate. The Bible is that “owner’s manual” for human life, explaining our Engineer’s intended purpose for sexual activity.

The Bible Paints a Positive Picture of Sex and Marriage

The Genesis account of creation lays the foundation for our design and explains God’s plan for our sexual activity (e.g. Gen. 1:27-28, 2:24). In a nutshell, God created human beings as male and female, designing them to function sexually in a heterosexual/complementary way, and only within the covenant of marriage. This isn’t merely an Old Testament (or outdated, as some suggest) teaching. Jesus identifies this teaching as valid in the New Testament, as well. When asked about marriage and divorce, Jesus says,

Have you not read that He who created them from the beginning made them male and female, and [God] said, “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh”? So they are no longer two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate.

God is our creator, designer and engineer. … He knows best how we’re supposed to operate.

Notice Jesus not only quotes Genesis but also adds His own commentary (“they are no longer two, but one flesh…”). He believes that what the Holy Spirit inspired Moses to write about sexuality is true. When it comes to sex and marriage, Jesus believes it’s about one man, with one woman, becoming one flesh, for one lifetime. That’s Jesus’ view. That should be our view as well.

This is the positive picture the Bible paints of sex and marriage (of course it says a lot more than this).

Defining Sexual Sin

If sex should only occur between a husband and wife, then all other forms of sexual activity are prohibited. Fornication (sex before marriage), homosexual sex, adultery (sex outside marriage), incest, rape and bestiality are all examples of sexual activity outside Jesus’ parameters.

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Notice, homosexual behavior is not singled out. There’s no special condemnation reserved for people who engage in homosexual sex. People who satisfy same-sex desires through sexual fantasy or homosexual contact are not special. They’re just like anyone else in sexual sin. In fact, there are probably far more heterosexuals engaged in sexual sin (fornication, adultery, etc.) than there are homosexuals engaged in sexual sin.

That means if someone says homosexual sex is sin, they are not saying anything substantially different than if they were to say sex before marriage is sin or sex outside marriage is sin. One statement is not more hateful than another. In fact, neither statement is hateful at all. It was Jesus who taught this ethic, and therefore, it’s His view. If someone believes this sexual standard is hateful, then their view entails the idea that Jesus is hateful.

Sexual activity is reserved for a married man and woman. All other forms of sexual activity are prohibited.

God’s Message on Sexual Activity

Someone might reply by asking why Christians talk more about homosexuality than, for example, heterosexual fornication, divorce, and other sins that seem to be more common. I think that’s a fair question, but I don’t think that it’s always true of every church. There are consistency problems within some churches, and fornication and adultery are sometimes treated differently than homosexual sin. That’s a problem, and why that occurs needs to be answered and addressed, but it’s not the point of what I’m saying here.

I’m simply describing what seems to be the message of God’s word. Sexual activity is reserved for a married man and woman. All other forms of sexual activity are prohibited. Homosexual sin is not singled out, though. It’s just one of many types of sexual sin.

That’s God’s message and what Jesus taught.

 

Originally appeared at Stand to Reason. Reprinted with permission.

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  • Placeboshotgun

    Well said

  • Supertx

    Right you are.
    I think it is talked about the most because it is stirred up constantly by those who seek to divide us.

  • This is why Gay couples really ought to to abstain from sex until AFTER they’re married.

    • Caleb Starr

      It’s hard to understand the true meaning of words on the internet but I do hope that you are attempting to be facetious.

  • Trilemma

    According to the Bible, people who divorce for unbiblical reasons and remarry are living in adulterous relationships. Yet Christians don’t refuse to recognize such marriages nor want them to be illegal. Christians don’t have a problem with selling wedding cakes or flower arrangements for such weddings. And the pastors who conduct these weddings are not condemned. So yes, homosexuality is singled out.

  • James

    In other words: Christians’ View of Sexuality: Not Singling Out a Sin, But Condemning Multiple Sins

    • Kevin Carr

      When practiced outside the bounds set by God.

  • Top Quark

    “Someone might reply by asking why Christians talk more about homosexuality than, for example, heterosexual fornication, divorce, and other sins that seem to be more common. I think that’s a fair question, but I don’t think that it’s always true of every church.”

    As a life-long Christian, I have to point out that this is at best disingenuous. OF COURSE Christians as a whole complain about homosexuality more than fornication, adultery, etc. (Whether this is true “of every church” is an irrelevant red herring.) The fact is that Christians complain about homosexuality ALL THE TIME; they call into radio shows about it, they comment on Internet forms about it, they write in to newspapers, and on and on. Some even waive placards saying homosexuals are responsible for 9-11 or are automatically going to hell; the former is nonsense and the latter is downright unbiblical. By contrast, when was the last time you heard a Christian complain about, say, no-fault divorce, or claim that someone who commits adultery is automatically going to hell? Through no-fault divorce, heterosexuals have done more to denigrate God’s plan for marriage than homosexuals ever will by dint of sheer numbers. But you’d never know this from the constant hysterical hand-wringing about homosexuality by the Christian community.

    The reason many Christians like to single out homosexuals is simple: they struggle with a particular sin that most Christians do not, so it’s easy to point fingers. But let’s not talk about divorce, lust, fornication, or any of the other sexual sins, because that makes things uncomfortable. Have you, heterosexual men, ever looked at a woman lustfully? That means you’ve committed adultery with her in your heart. Keep that in mind next time you’re tempted to demonize homosexuals or pretend that homosexuality is some sort of ultimate sin.

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